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Sep 5, 2023Liked by Neena Verma

Neena these are exactly my thoughts after loosing the love of my life my son of 29 years to this tragic event,

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Hello Deepa

I hold you in warm compassion. Sending you prayers of healing & strength. Hope you find some solace & affirmation in this newsletter. Please know I am here to hold space for you & walk with you in your grief affirmation journey. Please feel free to reach me at - growwithneena@gmail.com - if you so feel the need.

Meanwhile please keep yourself in your compassionate care.

Neena

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Neena, I could not have said this better. I have had some difficult and emotionally detrimental experiences-of when asked if I have children. At work, volunteer jobs and in social situations, some have asked me to refrain from telling people or talking about my daughter since it made them or might make other’s uncomfortable. In some situations, I struck a compromise to only tell if asked. I said, “ I will never negate my daughter’s existence, if asked” I feel it was shaming. I will write about this soon. I would like your permission to share your post and even quote you in my essay since you express it perfectly.

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Jul 19, 2023·edited Jul 19, 2023Author

Susan you and I so know this pain. And we owe it ourselves & other bereaved mothers to bring this matter out in the open. Our heart’s truth deserves to be affirmed & told , as-is.

I would be keenly looking forward to reading your essay. And I am so happy & grateful for the acknowledgement you are graciously offering to my work & writing.

❤️

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May 16, 2023Liked by Neena Verma

Twitter stars always lighting your path in their own ways. You have 2 sons and they are your anchors.

Always they are with you. A lovely pair.

No moving on. It’s always moving with and together.

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Yes Yogesh Ji

We have two children

Always with us

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May 16, 2023Liked by Neena Verma

Neena, you have given a beautiful insight to the fact that we, the bereaved mothers can answer to the question of “how many children you have “. I lost my daughter 15 years ago. I was very uncomfortable with this question. If I say I had a daughter and lost her than either the awkward silence or the follow up questions were a bother. I could never shared this with strangers. But yes, you are right. Our transcended children are very much part of us and we should not avoid answering this question.

Thank you so much. God bless you.

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Hello Nancy

Many thanks for your affirmative words. I am happy this post resonates.

Often we miss the reality that mortal bodies die - relationships don’t. It is possible & has deep meaning - that we re-member our connection with our deceased loved ones. And allow the remembrance a living space in our consciousness.

You know it well that your daughter very much continues to live in that space in your heart & mind. And that is enough. No external explanation or validation needed.

Nothing can erase the reality that i have two children. One is present. Other is in PRESENCE.

Stay warm & in meaningful happiness of life dear friend.

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Thanks for writing and sharing this. Thanks for your willingness and generosity in helping others as you heal and help and grieve and love yourself.

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Many thanks dear Ronita for your warm words. I feel affirmed by you. And so value your ever wise engagement here ❤️

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