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Nov 26, 2022Liked by Neena Verma

Grief and gratitude are so intertwined, it becomes difficult to distinguish and see them separately. The mind flows in myriad ways.

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True indeed

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https://www.compassionatefriends.org/wcl

The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting on the 2nd Sunday in December unites family and friends around the globe in lighting candles for one hour to honor the memories of the sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, and grandchildren who left too soon. As candles are lit on December 11th, 2022 at 7:00 pm local time, hundreds of thousands of people commemorate and honor the memory of all children gone too soon.

Now believed to be the largest mass candle lighting on the globe, the annual Worldwide Candle Lighting (WCL), a gift to the bereavement community from The Compassionate Friends, creates a virtual 24-hour wave of light as it moves from time zone to time zone. TCF’s WCL started in the United States in 1997 as a small internet observance and has since swelled in numbers as word has spread throughout the world of the remembrance. Hundreds of formal candle lighting events are held, and thousands of informal candle lightings are conducted in homes, as families gather in quiet remembrance of children who have died and will never be forgotten.

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dear Susan many thanks for sharing this ... I would sure be joining in

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Nov 26, 2022Liked by Neena Verma

Very beautiful Neena. When we lose our loved ones life goes on …. and we should be able to find meaning in it .. gratitude is the way… the way you are doing it is remarkable. Thanks for sharing. It’s very inspiring. God bless you.

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Many thanks for your kind words Nancy Ji ... hope to continue learning from your warm wisdom ... please keep reading and commenting ... gratitude

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Beautiful story of your two sons, their generous gifts to you and to the world. What a special memory in the garden that day- I could feel it all so well because of the way you write it. I just ordered your memoir. I imagine I will savor it. love and gratitude to a kindred spirit, fellow bereaved Mom and writer.

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From one chosen mother to another ... warmth, faith, strength, love and grace dear Susan

We traverse this life hand in hand

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Nov 25, 2022Liked by Neena Verma

What I learnt from this post is that we live in grief and yet we also live in life

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Love you bachcha ... all that I know of forgiveness and acceptance, I have learnt from you ... my angel, my pride

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I remember you sharing the wonderful way your younger son stood by you. And also about your older son's beautiful sense of responsibility. Much love to you Neena for who you are, all the parts that unmake and make you and all that you do.

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"all the parts that unmake and make you"

Nobody can say such complex things with more grace and profound simplicity as you do dear Ronita ... so happy and grateful for knowing you and having you in my life journey ... gratitude

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